Leap and the Net Will Appear

Hello everyone!

Are you ready to be inspired?

Have you ever wondered how all those amazing non-profit organizations out there helping people, all over the world, with counseling, financial support, mentoring, volunteers–get started? Maybe you’ve thought about starting a non-profit yourself but thought, “Well, those kinds of organizations are only for rich people like Bill Gates?” NOT.

This week I had the privilege of hosting Leo Preziosi, the amazing, passionate, founder of a non-profit called “Live Out Loud, on my weekly radio show, Life Shifting with Dr J, This wonderful non-profit organization, dedicated to providing role models and support to LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) youth, has been doing extraordinary work–for over ten years! Founded by Leo in 2001, Live Out Loud works with high school and college LGBT support groups — bringing successful role models from the gay community BACK to their hometowns and colleges–to speak, mentor, and present a POSITIVE FUTURE to kids that may be struggling with sexuality, bullying, and virulent homophobia.

For anyone who has ever dreamed about doing something BIG in the world, stepping up and doing something to truly help those in need–Leo is an inspiration. He graciously agreed to come on my show and share his wisdom and insights about HOW and WHAT it takes to MAKE A DIFFERENCE every single day.

I hope you will tune in or download my interview with Leo–just click here or go to www.transformationtalkradio.com and look for Dr. Jeffrey Hull, under “hosts”.

I was deeply moved by Leo’s dedication to kids and his gift for starting, building and, most of all, sustaining a non-profit organization for over ten years. For anyone out there thinking about joining or starting a non-profit…Leo would surely say, “Go for it! Take the leap…and the net will appear!” Here are a few of his wise tips:

1. Go with your passion! All it takes is an IDEA…but you have to believe in it PASSIONATELY. What you care about MATTERS. Leo’s story is simple but moving. He read an article about two high school boys who committed suicide rather than have to deal with the pain of being gay in a world that shunned them. He was moved to his core…and made a simple decision: to do something. What moves you? What suffering in the world are you not willing to tolerate? What might you do about it?

2. Don’t go it alone. Find companions to join you on the trip.

All hands on deck

Build a coalition of like-minded folks who want to help.

3. Seek out the experts. Recognize your strengths (Leo, for example is great at creating events and raising funds) and seek out people with expertise that fills in your gaps (he acknowledged that he’s not great with administration and accounting!).

4. Don’t be afraid to ask. Leo shared a great story about the challenge of fund-raising: learning to ask for $$$$. He acknowledges that it can be daunting…and you have to learn to handle “no”…or “not now”…but many many people are out there who WANT to help. You have to learn to ask.

5. Stick with it. Organizations that last ten years like Live Out Loud grow incrementally and steadily…as Leo recounts, it is not a sprint to the finish line, rather it is about making small and steady steps in the direction of growing, affirming what you care about, being persistent…and staying true to your dream.

Thanks Leo…for you amazing story and the powerful, uplifting work you are doing in the world to support gay youth. We all know, from recent highly publicized events, that bullying and prejudice, unfortunately, are alive and well in our society. Even in a world where TV and movies now regularly portray gay people as just like everyone else–we have a long way to go in creating a society where acceptance and tolerance are the NORM rather than the exception.

I hope you’ll tune in to my interview with Leo, and more importantly, think about how you might GET INTO ACTION and volunteer, join…or maybe start an organization…even a MOVEMENT. Why not?

One person really CAN make a difference

With gratitude,

Dr J

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Are you a “Conscious Marketer?”

Ever been to a networking event and have someone hand you a business card, tell you their name, and ask if they can “give you call”? Well, I have. Too many times. Sometimes I feel like people

Is this your networking dance?

attend these events with a stack of cards in hand, their only goal for the evening is to see how many cards they can give out…and snatch up from others.

What about having a REAL conversation? Maybe you only get to talk to one or two or three people during an entire evening, but you take the time to ask questions, learn about the person…to spend more time listening than talking? Have we lost the art of CONNECTION?

If you are in the “networking” or “sales” or “brand-building” mode…out there schmoozing and trying to find a job, sell your services or build a business…then you must, simply MUST, listen in to my recent radio show with guest Lynn Serafinn, conscious marketing expert and author of, “The Garden of the Soul: Lessons of Four Flowers that Unearth the Self.” Lynn is a book promoter, classical musician, and author of the up-coming book: “The Seven Graces of Marketing: How to Heal Humanity and the Planet by Changing the Way We Sell”.”

Lynn and I had a deep, rich and provocative conversation about a topic near and dear to my heart: how to SHIFT from a “transaction-oriented” approach to marketing to a “relationship-oriented” approach. Click here to listen or download to Itunes/Mp3.

And so you ask, what is the difference?

Well, to my mind…and Lynn seemed to echo my sentiments, the key difference between today’s tendency towards quantity and transaction-based connections (e.g. how many friends you have on Facebook fddoes NOT by itself, imply lots of sales of ANYTHING!) is whether you enter the connection point from FEAR…or LOVE. What? No, really.

Here’s the thing: we all feel anxious and nervous about meeting new people, or reaching out BEYOND OUR COMPUTER to connect with others. But when we enter that sacred moment of connection, reaching out our hand and saying “hello”…far too often that anxiety (e.g. fear or the unknown “other”) takes over, our breath gets shallow, we feel a knot in our stomach…and we slip into “robot” mode: “Hi, how are you? What do you do? Here’s my card…etc.”

The goal of the fearful ego is to GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE…and as soon as possible get back safely ensconced behind the cheese plate or better yet, the computer screen. This is the sort of anxiety/fear-based dynamic that tends to pervade the typical cocktail party or networking event. Everyone is smiling… NO ONE is really having a good time. BUT, it doesn’t have to be that way…

Crossing the bridge of connection

Love-based connections, or what I prefer to call “conscious connection,” starts from a different place. We take a few deep breaths; we feel our anxiety and accept it as natural (our silly ego attempting to protect us), and then we step into the moment of connection with ANTICIPATION, the energy of curiosity…deeply interested to KNOW this other being that I am blessed to meet at this moment in time.

We might say, as always, “hello, I am so and so…but then…WHO are you? What brought you to this event? What are you hoping to learn? What is the challenge you are struggling with in YOUR business? How might I help? How might we help each other? Etc…” Many minutes will go by…you might only get to hand out a few business cards. Yet, something else will very likely occur: you will relax. You will soften in your body and feel empathy instead of anxiety. After all, we are all in this swirl of life TOGETHER. We are all, ultimately, looking for the same thing: to be heard, to connect, to feel loved…to belong.

By entering into a networking opportunity with a LOVING heartset instead of a fearful mindset, something wonderful, precious, sacred, and key to the success of every business might just occur: you make a friend, find a partner, a customer, or a referral to someone who can help you land a job or build your business. You might have find someone you can help out as well. And a real, powerful connection is born.

We are all connected

Lynn and I talked for an hour…and it felt like five minutes. She told me her wonderful story–the amazing journey of how she parlayed a music career into a spiritual journey to the far-flung wilds of India and on to a marketing career–but most importantly, she shared with me why she is so passionate about helping people SHIFT the way they promote their books, their brands, and their businesses.

She is calling for a wholesale REINVENTION of the way we do business, away from the old paradigm of fear-based, scarcity-based, competition, towards a space of gratitude, abundance, and deep connection. It is all about remembering a deep truth, one which we all know in our hearts but so quickly forget when the pressure to sell, pay the bills, get known, be “out there”…takes over: we are all connected. We are all longing to belong. I was moved by her passion, her spirit…and her dream…as I hold the same one, for my clients…and for the world.

SO…if you are out there on the entrepreneurial, job-hunting, or life-reinventing circuit, doing the networking, Facebook-ing, tweeting thing…listen in to Lynn and try to be more CONSCIOUS and thoughtful when approaching that “unknown other”. Don’t get caught falling down the rabbit hole fantasy that “its all about the numbers”. It ain’t true. The sales pitch (I know, I know you’re supposed to have the 30 second elevator pitch…oy!) might bring you a bit of business

How many "clicks" will pay the rent?

— but surely, in the long run, it won’t feel satisfying and it won’t be sustainable. What does last…is becoming part of a community of REAL people…forging and nourishing those LOVING spaces where people come together…to live, learn and support each others dreams.

I hope you’ll listen in and let me know what you think. I’m all ears!

Dr j

Life Shifting with Dr J: Recap!

Howdy all,

So excited to report that my radio show on Transformation Talk Radio is humming along! Reaching amazing new numbers of listeners each week! Have you been tuning in? Every Monday at 5pmEST on WBLQ 1230 am radio in New England and “live” (or download) at www.transformationtalkradio.com. Click on “November” and you can play or download this show to your MP3 player or Itunes.

Last week I had a great show that re-kindled the “sleepy entrepreneur” in me: From Ho-Hum to Outrageous! Transformational Business Strategies from the Inside Out! My special guest, Kathie Nelson, is a business strategy consultant and executive coach who has been helping people start businesses and increase sales for twenty years. She was an inspired and eloquent guest–bringing her wisdom and enthusiasm to thousands of listeners all across the country. Wanna know some of her “top tips” for creating an outrageous life? Continue reading

Cool Interview with Lisa Tener –writing coach extraordinaire! check it out!

Every thought about writing a book? Do you have a book in you just dying to climb out of your brain and on to the page?

If so, listen and learn…from my mentor and writing coach Lisa Tener, who recently interviewed me on the experience of GETTING PUBLISHED!

Lisa: Shortly before my second son was born, I worked with Executive Coach Jeffrey Hull on his book concept, helped him think through whether to self-publish or traditionally publish and provided feedback on his writing.

When my second son came along, immersed in mommying, I referred Jeff to a colleague, Lisa Sussman, to help him with his book proposal. Before he sent out the proposal, I weighed in with additional feedback and ideas.

So, it was exciting to get his book Shift: Let Go of Fear and Get Your Life in Gear in the mail a few weeks ago. I thought of several people who could really use this book and then I thought of my blog community. Wouldn’t you love to hear his story about how he got published and what he learned in the process? Here it is. Continue reading

Every Day a Little Death

In the parlor…in the bedroom…OK so I like Stephen Sondheim! As many of you will know, this is a line from a famous song in one of his musicals. Perhaps not the most upbeat note with which to kick off an article, but what the hell. Death is on my mind today.

Could this be the start of something GOOD?

In a good way.

You see, after dialoguing with my writing partner, Judy Fox, about the challenges we all face in “shifting our lives into high gear” we agreed that one of the most difficult moments in any major life shift is—letting go of an Identity. It feels like death. Not the real thing, perhaps, but in the moment, pretty darned close. The truth is, we LOVE our labels, our fixed roles, our corner offices, and business cards that PROCLAIM who we are to the world. But, how else can we welcome in a new sense of possibility, the energy of creativity and spontaneity, if we don’t step out of the comfy, cozy corners of identity that we build for ourselves?

Sure, in moments when life suddenly shifts and doors open to
new possibilities, it can feel exhilarating and fresh. But it can also feel terrifying and frightening, as we step out of our known frames of reference and dangle precariously in the unknown.

leap of terror? Or faith?

Yesterday, I spoke with a client who sees himself as hanging on the edge of a precipice in his corporate job: Things in his company have shifted dramatically around him and he worries that a transfer or a downsizing may be heading his way. He feels frustrated and unhappy and like a victim of circumstances—bad bosses, bad economics, bad timing, bad colleagues…you name it.

He does have choices: 1. he can quit (but he doesn’t have a job); 2. he
can step up and declare what he wants–a new role, a promotion, a new opportunity; 3. or he can sit back, do nothing, and let the frustration build until he gets sick…or worse, fired for having a bad attitude. Sound familiar? I have seen this kind of situation many times in my career as an executive coach…and…I have been in this situation myself a few times.

Looking back, I wish I had been less stuck in fear, more willing to hang over the
edge, more willing to trust myself, take a chance…and take a stand. Why? Because every time I finally stepped out of my box of victim energy, and moved into the open sky of possibility, amazing things would happen. Whole new vistas of possibility would appear that I had NEVER SEEN BEFORE.

But I had to shed that part of my identity that was holding
me back: my attachment to a particular job title, office configuration, box on the org chart, etc. Something had to die, to be buried up there on the cliff before I was light and trusting enough to step off…and soar. Now, I am not advocating that you leap before you look, nor have I told my client to jump willy-nilly into the unknown.

Take a leap...the water's fine!


BUT I have told him that after learning all he can about the landscape before him, he should go ahead and MAKE A DECISION. Ask for what he wants. TAKE THE LEAP. Let go. Let that small, used-up, no-longer useful identity that he claims is his…die.

So strange as it sounds, I’m asking that you think about death today. What story do you tell about yourself that might have outworn its useful life? Think of all the different labels that you wear, the ways you supposedly “know” yourself to be: “worker-bee”, “boss”, “professional”, “adult”, “parent”, “over-weight”, “out-of-shape”, “non-spiritual”, “hard worker”, “always tired”, “oppressed”, “underpaid”, etc… Is there one you’d be willing to part with? Even a small one?

For example, I’m contemplating the possibility of letting my identity as a “coffee addict” die. Even as I write these words, I stand on the precipice: Could I actually walk by a Starbucks and not go in? (Stay tuned). Birth requires death.

Tomorrow, my client will walk into his bosses office and make a decision, take a stand, and become a different person. He already honors himself as a leader of others. But soon, just maybe, by stepping off that cliff of the known, he will become different kind of leader–a leader of self.

Peace…gotta run to Starbucks…Dr J

p.s. Click here everyday-littledeath for a wonderful tool (thanks Ambrin!) to help you do an inventory of your most cherished “identities,” think about which ones might need to die…and what’s waiting to be born!

Life Shifting at the Fringe

My Friend and colleague, Caroline Ceniza-Levine has written a chapter in a wonderful new book that hits the shelves this month: “How the Fierce Handle Fear” from Two Harbors Press. I’m thrilled for her and was excited to get a “preview” copy. Caroline, as she deftly describes herself, is an “extreme career changer,” having experienced a surfeit of “life shifts” over her short time in the professional world (she’s still a youngsta!).

She’s been a recruiter, a real estate investor, an HR director, a Wall Street banker, an actress, and today is a successful entrepreneur with her own career coaching and training firm focused on helping Gen X and Gen Y folks “make the shift” into six figure careers.

I love Caroline’s writing on the subject of fear, and I especially like her recipe for successful navigating the onslaught of anxieties, worries, stress and just plain old TERROR that hits us all as we dare to dream big. You might think that someone like Caroline is the epitome of fearlessness. NOT.

In Times of Change Fear Descends On Us All

She reveals quite candidly that she is just like the rest of us. “I’m full of fear—that’s just how I am. I worry a lot. I imagine the worst. I see half empty glasses everywhere. But I developed strategies, techniques and tips that enabled me to press on, even turning the fear into a motivator.” Here are the two tips that I love from Caroline: 1. Run the numbers; 2. Develop a “change-at-the-fringes” strategy.

Perhaps you’ve always dreamed of writing a novel or being an actor. Of course, you think to yourself that dreams are for kids, that you have bills to pay, and that you should just be grateful that you have food on the table. The novel can wait….and wait…and wait. But life is more nuanced than this black and white picture portrays.

Caroline says you CAN have it all. The world desperately needs your creativity, your heart and your passion, so just start small, or as she would say, “at the fringe…”

Finding Light at the Fringe

“First, run the numbers,” Caroline advises. Figure out what it costs you to pay your bills, feed the kids, and keep yourself in sneakers. Make sure you find or keep the work—a consulting gig, a part time or full time job—that takes care of you and your families basic needs.

BUT, then don’t put off your dream of an acting career, or painting or writing or whatever makes your heart sing. Start doing it on the side, at the fringe. Take a small step: sign up for an acting class, join a writer’s group, commit to that yoga class.

You don’t have to quit your day-job and become a starving artist or over-mortgaged entrepreneur, but you do have to START. If you get in gear and take a small step in the direction of your dream, soon enough, before you even realize it, you will begin to shift the energy of fear into the energy of enthusiasm.

When Caroline, with a full time job as an executive recruiter, started taking acting classes in the evenings, she began to shift her fears into excitement. Soon she took more classes, became more skilled and confident, and one day woke up with the realization that she WAS an actress and that she could get paid to do what she loved.

Once you take even a small step, at the fringe, towards your dream, fear no longer holds you hostage, but becomes empowering, a signal to your energy system that IT IS TIME TO SHIFT—to get disciplined and practice. So what if it takes you twenty years to write that novel: Rome wasn’t built in a day. But it did get built and it is still thriving thousands of years later, as is great art, great writing, great music, and all great work that was born of human passion and creativity.

Too often we view our fears as a signal that something is WRONG. We think that we should hunker down, avoid change, and just hold tight to what is familiar. In times of recession or other great upheavals in the cultural zeitgeist, it may feel downright crazy to think about living out your dreams. Yet, Caroline beautifully points out that the opposite is true: All we have is time.

Let Your Light SHINE!

Our biggest fear is not that we won’t become a successful actress or build up a business, but that we will look back on our life and wonder why we didn’t do what we wanted. As Caroline puts it: “After all it is your life. Do you really want to risk having to ask yourself what might have been? If you think change is scary, try regret.”

I wholeheartedly agree. All we have is NOW. So think about what you have always dreamed of doing, being or having. What would your life look like if you were living full out, making the most of your profound creativity and potential? Then start moving forward one step at a time. Run the numbers, (do that budget!) and start playing, practicing and getting in gear—at the fringe.

Thanks Caroline! You rock!

Dr J

G = V + E + H (C2) [A Tribute]

“You had the grace to hold yourself, while those around you crawled…” Elton John, Candle in the Wind”

Lucille Kelleher (1925-2009): A Touch of Grace

Lucille Kelleher (1925-2009): A Touch of Grace

Grace. It is one of THOSE words. One of those words that we hear often, use lightly, and rarely think about what it means. I’ve been hearing it a lot lately, and unlike most situations when the word gets bandied about, this time I’m listening.

The reason is simple: it’s about my mom. On Wednesday April 8th at approximately 3pm, my mother departed this world. It was not unexpected, as she had been ill for a long time. But still. It was an intense, exhausting, and blessed experience to be with her at the end of her long, generally happy life.

She left us, at the end, with few words, yet even in the last days, in the throes of obvious pain and discomfort, she often mustered her signature expression: a smile. She was grace personified…and I feel blessed to have been close to her–physically, emotionally, and spiritually–during the transition. I was the last to hear her voice.

Four days before she died, she simply looked up at me, and quite adroitly, spoke the words, “I want to get out of here..(pregnant pause)…literally.” (Yes, ever eloquent, her final word, was “literally”!). Upon this final salutation, she smiled, squeezed my hand, and slept. A few days later, the vital heart released its grip, and, after 83 life-loving years, she was free from this world.

Now it has been over a week since she got her wish, and I can’t get this word–“grace”– out of my mind. Everyone who calls or writes or speaks of their long and abiding friendship with my mother says it: she had grace. She was graceful. I’m trying to make some sense of it all–to take her down off the pedestal (let’s face it, she wasn’t Marilyn Monroe, or Princess Di!) and reflect on how she came to embody this lofty, clearly deserved, yet seemingly impenetrable attribute.

Of course, if I’m truly honest with myself, there’s a selfish basis to this reflection as well. Not only do I want to honor, respect and remember my mom as having “grace”–and perhaps get a better understanding of what that meant for her–but I want some of that grace stuff for myself. Don’t we all? Did she pass on “grace” to me, at least by osmosis?

I was adopted…so I didn’t get it in my genes. On top of that, As I think about my work with clients and the powerful “life-shifts” that I am passionate about supporting in them, I also wish for them–a touch of grace. Actually, more than a touch: a graceful living, a graceful dying. A life of grace.

But how do we, as non-royal, non-celebrity, ordinary humans, gain access to the blessing of grace? Is there a recipe we can follow? Perhaps not. But, in honor of my mother’s passing, and the remarkable, yet unmistakable gift of grace that she brought to life — and to death itself–I hereby offer up what I would consider my mom’s personal concoction: G = V + E + H(C2).

First, we start with the big “V” for vitality. If you don’t have the pulse of life energy pulsing through your veins, keeping you motivated, enthusiastic and ALIVE–even at the end–you can’t possible embody grace.

I remember my mother, at age 75, two weeks before she was due for a double knee transplant surgery, hopping a series of planes with me…and

V is for vitality!

V is for vitality!

wandering the streets of Venice, Florence and Sienna. She had never been to Europe before–and her retort when I expressed concern: “damn if I’m gonna pass up a chance to see the world, just because of a little knee pain.” Of course, she could barely walk, and she required a wheelchair as we sallied across the Ponte Vecchio…but no matter, she positively radiated a desire for adventure, for exploration. That’s vitality…and before you can acquire grace, you gotta have it, in spades.

Secondly, I think the perfect complement to vitality is equanimity. Balance. Calm. Groundedness. It has been many decades since I saw my mom “fly off the handle” (when I was nine years old, she tore up my bedroom in a tizzy because I just couldn’t seem to pick up my dirty clothes!).

Equanimity--a delicate balance

Equanimity--a delicate balance

She faced off with just about every kind of “lemon” that life could throw at her, and pretty much always made lemonade (which always had to have a touch of sherry!).

Cool, collected, easy-going—these are words that could easily describe how my mom lived life. She handled the ups and downs of the economy—sometimes she could afford a new outfit, sometimes she couldn’t—but she always had enough money for a gift for a friend, for a small donation to the Cancer Society. She wasn’t extravagant; she was equanimous, balanced, even-keel.

So to get grace you gotta have vitality; you gotta have equanimity; and, to solidify the three-legged stool, you gotta have Humor. “Life is too short,” my mom would say, “we all need a good chuckle–on a daily basis–or what’s the point?” She wasn’t a big extrovert,

Buddha had that right idea!

Buddha had that right idea!

or the life of the party, but she knew how to find the humor in life’s absurdity; how to turn “even a nothing day, and suddenly make it all seem worthwhile” (as a kid, I fondly remember Saturday nights with Mary Tyler Moore; my mom idolized her!).

After a few sips of a martini (or more likely her favorite: Jack Daniels and water, always “with a twist!”), she would roll out her latest joke…”hey did you hear the one about the priest, the minister and the Rabbi?” She’d have us all in stitches. Unfortunately, to this day, I can’t tell a good joke–so I rely on my ability to toss off a good one-liner now and again. I guess joke-telling skills are genetic, but no matter. She exuded humor. Laughter was her song…and I know that thanks to her, I can always hum a few bars.

Finally, just because you’ve mixed up a cocktail with vitality, equanimity and humor, I still don’t think you’ve cracked the code called grace. There are a couple more key ingredients. You see, grace is not for the faint of heart: Grace requires fortitude.

Never be afraid to go out on that limb...

Never be afraid to go out on that limb...

You can’t be a wilting flower, or hang back in the corner watching life go by…and get the moniker “grace.” You have to get out and live–with Courage and Compassion. For this two-fer, or C-squared as I like to think of it, I think it’s safe to put my mom back up on the pedestal.

She was courageous to a fault–outliving a full hysterectomy at the ripe old age of 24, outliving a bout with life-threatening pneumonia at 36, out-maneuvering double-knee replacements and still dancing at her 80th birthday party…out-living two husbands and two poodles, a long string of shia-tsu’s

She outlived them all...

She outlived them all...

and a mangy cat…and outliving a cancer diagnosis that was supposed to have her in the grave eight years ago.

Her courage, her strength of heart, and her will to live confounded the doctors for so long that a couple of them passed away while she was still doing lunch!

As for compassion, I think it can be summed up in very simply phrase: she loved everyone. From the taxi drivers, many of whom spilled their life stories to her on the way from JFK to Manhattan (much to my chagrin!), to the twenty-something hospice worker who became a trusted lunch companion, to her therapist who evolved into her best friend, to the great grandsons whose four-year old patter filled her life with joy: my mother cared about everyone.

She didn’t discriminate or judge. She had no tolerance for fundamentalists, religious zealots or homophobes, yet she never railed against them. She just stated the obvious: “they sure do miss out on having some great friends.” For my mother, compassion came easy.

So there you have it. A mother’s tried and true recipe for GRACE:
G= V + E + H (C2).

Perhaps, this is an overly simple, rather perfunctory attempt to “quantify” something that is in reality a bit out of reach, a touch effervescent or esoteric (she would have loved those words!). But, today, in tribute to her, I offer up this equation as a simple access route to the ineffable.

Grace, in the face of every inevitable “life-shift,” is always within our grasp. I know. I’ve seen it.

So, if you wanna shift your life into high gear, I suggest the following: Run down to the nearest Walmart and stock up on V, on E, on H, and don’t forget to buy extra C’s. They’ll come in handy when the chips are down.

Only one thing can never be washed away...

Only one thing can never be washed away...

Thanks mom…for being you. You may not have been a great cook, but you knew how to mix just the right ingredients to perfect a life…with grace.

With love,

DR J